tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post7874629779352458348..comments2024-02-28T05:22:16.853-05:00Comments on I Won't Fear Love: Every dayJuliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-7234585288685066602008-08-04T22:49:00.000-04:002008-08-04T22:49:00.000-04:00i'm late in letting you know that i've been thinki...i'm late in letting you know that i've been thinking of you, always thinking of you and your family.wannabe momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00975160438211356349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-7808156749006870232008-08-04T18:36:00.000-04:002008-08-04T18:36:00.000-04:00Hi Julia, It's Jen again. The dates of our sons li...Hi Julia, <BR/>It's Jen again. The dates of our sons lives seem to match more than I realized. It's been awhile and I don't know if you remember, but my son died on the same day A died. I'm also pregnant again, on strict bedrest, and today in this baby's gestational age is the exact day that Will was born. Three weeks ago I went into the hospital not believing that I was having contractions at 21 weeks, but there I was with a dialated cervix and an amniotic sac pushing out. This time we caught it in time, and they were able to perform a circlage and send me home. Today has been an awful day, expecting the worst, hoping for the best. I have an idea of how you might feel.<BR><BR><BR/>Good luck to both of us! I'll be thinking about you and your family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11474336069228291917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-42324914381418784812008-08-04T15:22:00.000-04:002008-08-04T15:22:00.000-04:00I read someone's blog recently and she was talking...I read someone's blog recently and she was talking about a website called "Now I lay me down to sleep"; an organisation which has photographers on standby to photograph still-born children, so that their parents have something to remember them by. I have been trying to decide whether to sign up as a photographer - just feel that as, after 4.5 years of infertility, my wife is now pregnant, I have to give something back....<BR/><BR/>The Broken Man<BR/><BR/>http://theblogofabrokenman.blogspot.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-82000135485978236532008-08-04T14:48:00.000-04:002008-08-04T14:48:00.000-04:00Awareness is painful. Thinking of you.Awareness is painful. Thinking of you.thricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528308384855206125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-32211135372494526472008-08-03T16:55:00.000-04:002008-08-03T16:55:00.000-04:00Thanks for your kind comment on my blog. I think ...Thanks for your kind comment on my blog. I think what you've written here is lovely and true - but I also think that we spend far too much time labelling things good and bad. I can't explain what I mean really because, of course, some things are good and some bad. But some how letting go of those labels is the only way forward. Now I just try to think, 'So this is what is happening on this day' and leave the labels alone. <BR/><BR/>With love and thanks,<BR/><BR/>AliceAlicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02472729169216109749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-79145252714155622182008-08-03T11:08:00.000-04:002008-08-03T11:08:00.000-04:00SO insightful. Sometimes I forget how common baby ...SO insightful. Sometimes I forget how common baby loss can be, and when I hear of someone else suffering stillbirth or neonatal loss, my heart stops at the sheer horror that there is someone out there feeling what I felt 4 months ago. And I wonder if anyone at the hospital saw me and was brought back as you were.Bustedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09926427330808873296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-3213861393172902212008-08-02T23:15:00.000-04:002008-08-02T23:15:00.000-04:00Oh Julia, I have been thinking about you and A and...Oh Julia, I have been thinking about you and A and this new life waiting patiently to be born, despite all attempts by your body to hasten the arrival. I hope the rest has helped if not mentally than at least physically.<BR/>We share similar dates my nightmare began on the 31st and ended on the 1st, the beginning of the end or something like that, escept it wasn't the end, it never ends does it?<BR/>I'm sorry my comment is late in getting here, I thought i had posted before but I think I went over to Glow to read your other post and then got lost in trying to formulate a comment over there...that one hit deep, the words still haven't come.<BR/>Thinking of you and sending every postive vibe I can for a safe delivery into your arms of one beautiful, healthy baby.<BR/>P.S. Your credit card comment gave me the giggles, thanks for that I sure needed them:)k@laklyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05366772609212990882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-5453208584228334272008-08-02T21:30:00.000-04:002008-08-02T21:30:00.000-04:00I have been trying to get here for two days, but i...I have been trying to get here for two days, but it keeps telling me your blog was unavailable. Oh well, I got here now. <BR/><BR/>The terrible day for someone else does happen everyday. But on the flip side, there is always something good happening to someone else as well. I wish you lots of good days in the next while.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-70771672237570198622008-08-02T20:08:00.000-04:002008-08-02T20:08:00.000-04:00I know I've said this before, but you are the reas...I know I've said this before, but you are the reason I found this secret place, when a go0gle search turned up your blog in response to "engorgement and stillbirth."<BR/><BR/>I've never been more aware that everyday is somebody's bad day than the past few months when I have read blog after blog acknowleding one year anniversaries. I think back to that time and I was still oblivious then, untouched...but not for long. Everyday is indeed somebody's day.<BR/><BR/>This is all just so sad, so awful. Beautiful post, Julia.c.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02933776400434137451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-14676367806361211462008-08-02T13:46:00.000-04:002008-08-02T13:46:00.000-04:00Sad and beautiful, Julia. Thinking of you and you...Sad and beautiful, Julia. Thinking of you and your whole family these days.Wabihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00325505487775250447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-23763475754997983402008-08-01T21:49:00.000-04:002008-08-01T21:49:00.000-04:00Thought of you yesterday, thought of you today, th...Thought of you yesterday, thought of you today, thinking of you and A and the baby to come, always.Snickollethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14123630374052898460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-81922405335525950632008-08-01T20:14:00.000-04:002008-08-01T20:14:00.000-04:00I've been thinking of you. And A and the little ne...I've been thinking of you. And A and the little new life that we are all holding our breath to scream "Welcome!!" to... ...<BR/><BR/>That scene in the garage... it just got to me.<BR/><BR/>Now, I see every day as a mixed package- some good, some bad. Anytime I feel my life is shit, I remind myself that it is probably even more shit for someone else.janishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326099151319592743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-21176416073924254242008-08-01T19:20:00.000-04:002008-08-01T19:20:00.000-04:00You've been very much on my mind. {hug}~Beth (tige...You've been very much on my mind. <BR/><BR/>{hug}<BR/><BR/>~Beth (tigermoon)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-69024185177713263982008-08-01T17:45:00.000-04:002008-08-01T17:45:00.000-04:00*hug**hug*ZMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04469113104449353180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-70649119804152882262008-08-01T14:59:00.000-04:002008-08-01T14:59:00.000-04:00I am thinking of you and A. Today, as i walked out...I am thinking of you and A. <BR/><BR/>Today, as i walked out of the bagel shop i passed by a woman and a ten-year old boy, eating their breakfast. "They make caskets in baby sizes," she explained to him.<BR/><BR/>Yes, they do.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-18159286940731375852008-08-01T12:10:00.000-04:002008-08-01T12:10:00.000-04:00I ended up here in blogland due to a search and pi...I ended up here in blogland due to a search and ping of your blog and a few others. <BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.G$https://www.blogger.com/profile/05010373805685335151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-51321901199071056792008-08-01T11:45:00.000-04:002008-08-01T11:45:00.000-04:00Oh, hon.So true about the "your good day is someon...Oh, hon.<BR/><BR/>So true about the "your good day is someone else's bad day". Alas.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-64151948699350220442008-08-01T11:11:00.000-04:002008-08-01T11:11:00.000-04:00This is a beautiful post.The day my younger daught...This is a beautiful post.<BR/><BR/>The day my younger daughter was born was the same day my friend lost her son. It's heartbreaking.Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16513928061453431024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-79961084327764621682008-08-01T10:05:00.001-04:002008-08-01T10:05:00.001-04:00this is just haunting and beautiful.thinking of yo...this is just haunting and beautiful.<BR/><BR/>thinking of you and A.Ashleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04483699312375749242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-13201209462342890132008-08-01T10:05:00.000-04:002008-08-01T10:05:00.000-04:00Thinking of you today.Thinking of you today.Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-16475155369838178702008-08-01T09:38:00.000-04:002008-08-01T09:38:00.000-04:00those strange intersections of lives and time and ...those strange intersections of lives and time and dates...they play with my mind, and break my heart.<BR/><BR/>thinking of you, Julia...with all sorts of love and hope, this day especially.<BR/><BR/>and sorrowing, quietly, for the unknown people for whom this day will be That Day.Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-24661775148565490982008-08-01T09:20:00.000-04:002008-08-01T09:20:00.000-04:00I'm really glad you wrote this post. Thank you. I ...I'm really glad you wrote this post. Thank you. I think about these things sometimes too. My terrible day is coming soon Labor Day, what a day to remember and get a kid ready for the start of school 2 days later...how did I do it? no clue. but things are getting to me, upsetting me and I've been down, and until I read this I didn't put the two together. worrying about getting Anders ready for school will forever be linked with losing my baby, and this time I will feel this one kicking me reassuringly, at least I hope thats how it feels. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for always being real and true and posting from your heart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-60125333452433910422008-08-01T07:57:00.000-04:002008-08-01T07:57:00.000-04:00I shouldn't be, but I'm always shocked when someon...I shouldn't be, but I'm always shocked when someone else's pregnancy goes wrong. Intellectually, I know the statistics. But emotionally, I just can't believe it's happening all over again.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-7684377208373545902008-08-01T07:47:00.000-04:002008-08-01T07:47:00.000-04:00Wow Julia, the scene in the garage left me with a ...Wow Julia, the scene in the garage left me with a lump in my throat. <BR/><BR/>It's always someone's bad day, isn't it. And I suppose knowledge of that tempers our good days considerably. Thinking of you this week, you and A.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8214358853640360621.post-47989980899845354872008-08-01T06:39:00.000-04:002008-08-01T06:39:00.000-04:00Thinking of you and A today. O hope the minutes go...Thinking of you and A today. O hope the minutes go by quickly for you. It's seems rather naive of me, but I try not to think about any day being someone else's bad day. My heart breaks all over again every time I hear about a new Mom who becomes one of us because I know what a hard road they have in front of them. I wish we could tell them that membership is full.CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.com