Sunday, December 14, 2008


A year ago it was my grandmother's 80th birthday. The day before, I flew to see her and my parents, sitting on tarmac for hours on end, one of the last planes to make it out of my city before the airport closed. The next day, a year ago today, I got up at insane o'clock in the morning, showered, grabbed the keys to mom's car, and drove two hours kinda-north. I stopped at a plaza to make phone calls and grab a tote of bagels to share with the people I was going to see.

A year ago today, in the early hours of the morning, on my grandmother's 80th birthday, my friend Beruriah had her second son. I met Baby Man on his birthday, his actual honest to goodness birth day. I met him before any of his grandparents. A big, lovely, gorgeous, living baby. I also met Kate and got to hang with her boys, M and T that day.

It felt good to be there, to drink from the well of happy conclusions to some journeys. The new baby did not take away the pain of his brother's death, nor did anyone there expect him to. But it was a glorious thing to celebrate-- a child who made it, for dear friends, for one of us. So today I want to say Happy Birthday, my dear Baby Man! And many-many more!

We here all know that, sadly, our best days are bound to be someone's worst. We've thought and written about it an awful lot. We've learned to make room in our happiness for the pain of others, as we would hope others would do for us. The day I drank from the well, the day Baby Man entered the world was also the day CLC's world came crashing down. Beautiful Hannah was born as I made my way two hours south-ish, back to my parents' house. Please stop by to remember and celebrate Hannah with her loving parents.


kate said...

You know, all day i have been thinking of Baby Man & of you & the Cub & that day a year ago, and sweet Hannah as well.

As i ran around with M & T & also took C to the birthday party of her best friend. Weird, that. The 'birthday problem', we call it when we teach an introductory probability class.

CLC said...

Thank you for remembering Hannah. I am so glad I found this community of amazing women. I don't know how I would have gotten through the last year without it!

Sara said...

Thanks, Julia.

I have been trying to find time to post about the 1 year since Baby Man joined us here. But time is so short and it so hard to know what to say.

Lori said...

What a happy day that was. And, what a sad one too.

Why must it always be that way?

I'm glad you helped me remember Baby Man's birthday. That's a happy memory to look back on.