Saturday, June 14, 2008

Hard days

 

Last year there were times when I was better, and times when I was worse. Three months increments seemed to be especially tough. Others said it was that way for them too, like the trimesters of pregnancy. This weekend three of our own are facing those round increments, and I think of them, and their babies. Please think of them too.

Today CLC is marking six months since Hannah was born still. Yesterday Amy marked the same terrible date for her son William Henry. This weekend Kate is marking a year since the night they held Liam as they let him go.

15 comments:

Bon said...

there is something beautiful to me about the candles lighting the dark of the feared forgetting...bearing witness.

janis said...

Hard days indeed, Julia.
I even need it for myself, for the darkness has already started to descend, and I am tempted to blow out the candle.
Thinking of all babylost mamas... ...

k@lakly said...

Deep sighs and lots of tears...they never seem to run out do they?

Tash said...

Thanks for remembering.

The Town Criers said...

It's interesting that it comes in three month increments and how they correspond to pregnancy. Adding a candle, sending love.

Samantha said...

I'm am sorry for loss. You are kind in remember others' losses as well.

sweetsalty kate said...

thanks, Julia.
xo

niobe said...

This is so thoughtful of you. It makes me so sad to think of all those dealing with sad anniversaries. And a little guilty that I have no anniversaries of my own to cope with.

Amy said...

Julia,
Thank you for remembering William. It means more than anyone who's not in our boat can ever know. Trimester's of my life...that's exactly what this is. It's no longer the days of my life, it's now the trimester's.
Much love to you for being such a dear friend. Thank you.

CLC said...

Thanks for remembering Hannah, Julia. I appreciate your friendship and support!

Coggy said...

Sometimes if feels like a constant procession of us walking through these milestones. I guess in reality it is and that is very sad.

Queenie. . . said...

But the beauty of this community is that you are never truly alone, and it never gets truly dark, because someone is always there with a kind word and a lit candle to help brighten the path and carry the load.

c. said...

So very thoughtful, Julia. And time marches on...

missing_one said...

anniversaries are so hard. I am carrying them all in my heart

Kim said...

The anniversaries are so hard. I agree some days are better than others. nclm